No one gets married thinking divorce is an option.
Don’t blame your partner or yourself for what is happening. No one gets married thinking divorce is an option. Unfortunately, it happens to a lot of couples. Times have changed, expectations have changed, tolerance has changed and you and your spouse have changed. Now, you are facing the idea of getting divorced. You are probably wondering how this is possible? how much it would cost? how would your family take the news? among many other questions that may concern you. Divorce is not an easy process and if you have come to the conclusion divorce is your only option. Then, you have already gone through the emotional turmoil prior to this consideration.
Divorce depletes couples emotionally and financially, there are many changes that need to be made and having adversarial lawyers or family members siding with one or the other can become confusing.
In my expereince as a mediator, divorce is a process, a process to find out what are the steps required during a divorce and all the issues that need to be addressed. There are many subjects such as, alimony, child support, distribution of property, retirement accounts, child custody, and much more. Most couples are surprised to find out how misinformed they were in regards to what happends during a divorce. Most couples do argue and I believe this part can potentially be the most expensive one. Therefore, mediation allows couples to re-vist their issues and disagreements as much as possible until reaching a solution. when you hire lawyers, they usually are the intermediators relating everyone’s messages. In mediation, you are listening to your spouse and there are less chances to misinterpretations. The intentions are clear and decisions are mutual. In addition, you have someone listening to you and your spouse and facilitating the conversation, helping resolve disagreements, and making suggestions that can benefit both parties.
To gain some insight on what can happen during a divorce you might want to read the book: The Courtless divorce, A smarter way to end a Marriage. by Michael Heath.
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