Divorce is a process that may take between 3 to 10 years to decide whether or not to divorce. How much time is spent during this turbulent time depends on each person.
There are many questions unanswered and many that won’t be answered until after the fact. However, to begin the process there is one question that may help you move forward towards this life-changing decision. What is the reason you want a divorce? Is it really you spouse making you unhappy? Are the dynamics in the relationship have irreconcilable differences?
If the answer is an affirmative “yes”, your will probably inevitably end in divorce.
If the answer is “no” or “I don’t know”, you may want to explore other options before making a final decision.
Ideas to explore
- You feel overwhelmed: Try to find the root cause of your concerns. Your relationship is not the cause, maybe it’s your job, family, or you may be experiencing financial concerns, perhaps it’s something that actually has a solution. Explore what is causing you the overwhelming feeling.
- You feel empty, bored, you can’t find purpose or you’re not happy in the dead-end you find yourself in: Finding a purpose in life is an individual discovery and your relationship shouldn’t be sabotaged because you need to do some self-discovery. Self-help activities may help you improve many areas of your life.
- You feel angry and unsatisfied: You may blame your relationship for not providing you with something you lack or need. The root cause of anger is based on not getting something your soul desires. This may be financial or emotional. Understanding what is missing in your life may help you find ways to move toward those goals.
- Your partner has checked out of the relationship: You want the marriage to work but your partner has no interest. Truly decide if it’s best to remove yourself from a broken relationship now then escalating it to a hurtful, revengeful breakup. Does it have to be bad for you to let go? What needs to happen for you to move on?
- There is an addiction involved: Is there an addiction involved with you or your partner that makes the relationship difficult?
- There is an affair involved: This is a traumatic experience for the betrayed and guilt-based for the betrayer, however; it does have a solution unless one has already decided there isn’t a solution for him or her. In this case, there is a lot of personal-development that needs to be explored.
- There is no intimacy: Read on the infinite resources available online, books, therapies, etc. get to work!
Regardless of the reason you find yourself thinking about divorce.
Your relationship is supposed to be supportive, not detrimental. Your partner is not a mind reader and probably is experiencing very similar emotions as you are. It helps to do your own self-discovery and improvement as well as share with your partner your milestones.
More often than not, couples don’t clearly understand the tremendous amount of miscommunication that separates them. Expressing your thought process and expectations are not communicating on a soul level. This often leads to misunderstandings, resentment, and more anger.
You may be disconnected from your goals and you need to get on track and start connecting the dots to your life purpose. Sharing it with a partner is rewarding. Saying “I don’t know” is not an answer you should settle for. Research deeper into your subconscious and find the cause of your confusion to help you begin to work towards the solution. After you do some soul searching and self-discovery, you will gain clarity on whether its time to move towards a different experience in life.
Life is a journey, not a destination and it involves a lot of experiences some good and some bad but they make you wiser and more knowledgeable. Make your life an adventure and share it with someone you love.
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